Are you looking for help finding some basic household needs? Well if you are reading this you have a goldmine of genuine "Helpers" at your fingertips.
Freecycle. You NEED to join your local freecycle group. You need to.
I cannot believe out here in the real world how many people are not taking advantage of, or not even aware of this resource.
It's like signing up for a million friends with extra stuff to give away. No it is just that.
I have seen vehicles given away!
I got a refridgerator a couple of months back of of my freecycle group.
Not only is it a list of "I have....to give away", but you can ask for what you need.
"Ask and you shall recieve" Well this has never been so easy.
You do have to be patient. You may have to re-post your request, but you most likely can find the item you need on your freecycle group. It is free. It is easy and you will recieve emails alerting you every say of what is being offered in your group.
Now think about it. do you know someone without a computer who needs something? Do you belong to a church group and get requests for items familys need? Post for them you may be their saving grace! Do it over and over for area needy people and you can be an angel.
To join Freecyle click HERE. There is no referal program for freecycle.
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I Can't Afford Prom! Charities Can Help or Maybe Just Some Tips on Saving.
Prom is way too important for your teen to miss. Every child should have the oppourtunity to go. I have some tips on saving money for the dress or tux rental and where to shop or even apply for help if you really don't have the money.
Tell your son or daughter to go through all of their clothes and "toys" and have a garage sale to raise the money for the tux or dress and tickets. You could also help out bygoing through your own goods!
Have them start clling relatives to do errands for pay to raise the money. They can offer to mow or weed landscaping. Babysit or clean. They could even organize a much needed garage for a neighbor. Don't limit their customers just to relatives.
Check ALL of your used stores, open your phone book to find the nearest. Often there are plenty of dresses to choose from for under $20.00. Alterations may only run a few dollars if you just need a hem up or if you are creative, you and your daughter may just have fun sprucing up a less than perfect dress.
Next check out the stores. Inform your child that they have X amount of dollars to spend and that is THAT. This way you both won't have to feel bad when you see the prices. You can find a dress for $30.00-$40.00 fairly easy in the stores' clearance. Don't forget how to use accesories to spice up a plain gown. The used stores are almost never out of jewelery. Use several long chain necklaces to form a belt on a plain black dress. Buy some arm length gloves or short lacey ones if they look great. These are fairly cheap accessories.
Look in your phone book or call all of the tux rental stores to see if there are any coupons available. Or see if a discount is available for groups and get your son's friends together to all go in on the same day for rentals.
There are several charities for prom gowns and tux rentals all over the states and even in Canada. I have included links to the lists of them. If you feel you may qualify for any of them plaese click over and check these out.
Remember to go over prom safty with your teens. Each year as I am sure you are aware, many die involved in alcohol and drug related issues. Also remember to find out with who and where your child will be. Let them know you will pick hem up if they get into trouble and to just call you. Most of all enjoy one of your most precious memories of your child's life!
http://wy.essortment.com/waysfindreal_tuln.htm
5 ways to find a cheap dress
Sharon Stone's Charity to help the needy. They offer help to poor students in need of prom gowns and tuxedos.
General Information
Planet Hope is a non-profit 501 c3.
1-800-314-HOPE
Here is a list of state by state individuals willing to help and programs in these states.
http://www.glassslipperproject.org/yostate.htm
An even more extensive list for wikipedia!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charitable_Prom_Organizations
Tell your son or daughter to go through all of their clothes and "toys" and have a garage sale to raise the money for the tux or dress and tickets. You could also help out bygoing through your own goods!
Have them start clling relatives to do errands for pay to raise the money. They can offer to mow or weed landscaping. Babysit or clean. They could even organize a much needed garage for a neighbor. Don't limit their customers just to relatives.
Check ALL of your used stores, open your phone book to find the nearest. Often there are plenty of dresses to choose from for under $20.00. Alterations may only run a few dollars if you just need a hem up or if you are creative, you and your daughter may just have fun sprucing up a less than perfect dress.
Next check out the stores. Inform your child that they have X amount of dollars to spend and that is THAT. This way you both won't have to feel bad when you see the prices. You can find a dress for $30.00-$40.00 fairly easy in the stores' clearance. Don't forget how to use accesories to spice up a plain gown. The used stores are almost never out of jewelery. Use several long chain necklaces to form a belt on a plain black dress. Buy some arm length gloves or short lacey ones if they look great. These are fairly cheap accessories.
Look in your phone book or call all of the tux rental stores to see if there are any coupons available. Or see if a discount is available for groups and get your son's friends together to all go in on the same day for rentals.
There are several charities for prom gowns and tux rentals all over the states and even in Canada. I have included links to the lists of them. If you feel you may qualify for any of them plaese click over and check these out.
Remember to go over prom safty with your teens. Each year as I am sure you are aware, many die involved in alcohol and drug related issues. Also remember to find out with who and where your child will be. Let them know you will pick hem up if they get into trouble and to just call you. Most of all enjoy one of your most precious memories of your child's life!
http://wy.essortment.com/waysfindreal_tuln.htm
5 ways to find a cheap dress
Sharon Stone's Charity to help the needy. They offer help to poor students in need of prom gowns and tuxedos.
General Information
Planet Hope is a non-profit 501 c3.
1-800-314-HOPE
Here is a list of state by state individuals willing to help and programs in these states.
http://www.glassslipperproject.org/yostate.htm
An even more extensive list for wikipedia!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charitable_Prom_Organizations
How Do You See A Teen Mom? How My Mother Saw Me Through. (WHAT I GAVE MY MOM FOR MOTHERS DAY)
Memories came flooding to my head, burning my eyes in our small town grocery store yesterday; "Mom, there's that pregnant girl" my daughter whispered.
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. She is now one month shy of that age.
I saw myself yesterday. I saw my own mother standing there too.
Clinging to her mother for dear life, this girl quietly and not too obviously shamefull. I knew it was hard for my mother then. Not until now did I realize what kind of strength it actually took. There she stood guarding her daughter's feelings. Her head up high as if to say go ahead look a little longer. Dare to say something to my daughter.
As my own daughter gets closer to that age, I find myself often reliving those feelings. Praying to God she does not have to face the feelings and struggles I did. I wonder if I have the will and strength within myself to protect and provide the same quality of support my mother did.
Could I be tough enough through those glares? How about the whispers. Would I be able to hold my own tears in for what she would be feeling, losing and facing? Would I be strong enough not to show my tears so that she may know I can handle "it" through the times she cannot?
I urge all of you to think about the courage and drive it takes a teen mom to face the world. She has to face her peers, teachers and family every day.
Smile and say hello the next time you come face to face with a young mother. She is a child who must become what it takes the rest of the world years to accomplish. An adult. She won't have the luxury of living on pasta and rooming with friends through college. Responsible for her childs' well being, nutrition and growth, she must hurry up and create a future for herself so she can provide one for her own child. How long did it take you to find your career and home? Have you yet? She may be a child now, but soon whether she or anyone near her likes it, she will be an adult.
Hope her mother is as wonderful and strong willed as mine was (and is). Wish for her at least for some person to stand half as strong as my mother did for me. A teen mom needs someone to tell her she is still beautiful, smart and wonderful. That she will be a great mother. Someone to let her know that she is such a capable person that her own child/children will turn out just as wonderful as she is. That no matter what else life may have in store, that someone will love them and be there to lean on.
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. She is now one month shy of that age.
I saw myself yesterday. I saw my own mother standing there too.
Clinging to her mother for dear life, this girl quietly and not too obviously shamefull. I knew it was hard for my mother then. Not until now did I realize what kind of strength it actually took. There she stood guarding her daughter's feelings. Her head up high as if to say go ahead look a little longer. Dare to say something to my daughter.
As my own daughter gets closer to that age, I find myself often reliving those feelings. Praying to God she does not have to face the feelings and struggles I did. I wonder if I have the will and strength within myself to protect and provide the same quality of support my mother did.
Could I be tough enough through those glares? How about the whispers. Would I be able to hold my own tears in for what she would be feeling, losing and facing? Would I be strong enough not to show my tears so that she may know I can handle "it" through the times she cannot?
I urge all of you to think about the courage and drive it takes a teen mom to face the world. She has to face her peers, teachers and family every day.
Smile and say hello the next time you come face to face with a young mother. She is a child who must become what it takes the rest of the world years to accomplish. An adult. She won't have the luxury of living on pasta and rooming with friends through college. Responsible for her childs' well being, nutrition and growth, she must hurry up and create a future for herself so she can provide one for her own child. How long did it take you to find your career and home? Have you yet? She may be a child now, but soon whether she or anyone near her likes it, she will be an adult.
Hope her mother is as wonderful and strong willed as mine was (and is). Wish for her at least for some person to stand half as strong as my mother did for me. A teen mom needs someone to tell her she is still beautiful, smart and wonderful. That she will be a great mother. Someone to let her know that she is such a capable person that her own child/children will turn out just as wonderful as she is. That no matter what else life may have in store, that someone will love them and be there to lean on.
The Nat'l. Crisis Pregnancy Helpline 1-800-521-5530
http://www.teenage-pregnancy.org/resources/ list of links including pregnancy options (abortion and adoption)counselors teen parenting guides.
http://dmoz.org/Kids_and_Teens/Health/Teens/Pregnancy/ extensive list of links to resources from personal teen mom stories to specific programs (financial and legal help, ect.)even a link to help you "break the news" to your parents.
If you are in need of even just a listening ear, please list it in our classifieds or contact me directly at lullabell@frontiernet.net
WHERE I UPPED THE TRAFFIC TO MY PAGE FREE
Making money on the internet can be tricky and I have found the information available to be repetative. One technique I find interesting and promising is setting up a blog and using advertisers to generate money. I the mean time you get to have a voice in the world through your blog. Very theroputic.
I know this post is out of the norm. The frugal living chapters are coming. I was thinking about ways to up my traffic and researching on it. If you are interested in making money online, then you probably know by now that setting up a blog is a great option, free and easy.
Getting traffic is another can of worms. Once you are up and running and no longer "under construction", you can go here: http://www.selfseo.com. This will give you they free and paid ways to get listed in search engines like google and yahoo and so on. (It's free info)
You can also go to Technorati Profile to join for free and get listed on this directory of blogs.
Alot of time and hard work is also REQUIRED. You need to follow forums and post your link there. Do this with taste. Don't ruin your reputation before you start. Look for topics athat relate to your site. Include your link in your signature (if allowed). join forums that relate to your site. Mylot is a good one. Here you will earn for free as you post too. Be careful though it does seem that people get to know each other well fast here, so don't just go in gung ho and post and repost nonsense to get your link out there. Enjoy yourself and make friends.
Placing a "add a link button" is the latest advice I have gotten and you can get that free at brave net. I will try this too. I dunno about it though. I am picky about who i would want to list. I am tring to run an honest wholesome site so we will see.
So far this is the best advice I have found. don't give up, it will be a slow go and take your time at first to get the hits you need. As i stated earlier though, you will feel good about getting a voice out there in the mean time and doing some thing constructive. So boost your confidence and get your blog on!
I know this post is out of the norm. The frugal living chapters are coming. I was thinking about ways to up my traffic and researching on it. If you are interested in making money online, then you probably know by now that setting up a blog is a great option, free and easy.
Getting traffic is another can of worms. Once you are up and running and no longer "under construction", you can go here: http://www.selfseo.com. This will give you they free and paid ways to get listed in search engines like google and yahoo and so on. (It's free info)
You can also go to Technorati Profile to join for free and get listed on this directory of blogs.
Alot of time and hard work is also REQUIRED. You need to follow forums and post your link there. Do this with taste. Don't ruin your reputation before you start. Look for topics athat relate to your site. Include your link in your signature (if allowed). join forums that relate to your site. Mylot is a good one. Here you will earn for free as you post too. Be careful though it does seem that people get to know each other well fast here, so don't just go in gung ho and post and repost nonsense to get your link out there. Enjoy yourself and make friends.
Placing a "add a link button" is the latest advice I have gotten and you can get that free at brave net. I will try this too. I dunno about it though. I am picky about who i would want to list. I am tring to run an honest wholesome site so we will see.
So far this is the best advice I have found. don't give up, it will be a slow go and take your time at first to get the hits you need. As i stated earlier though, you will feel good about getting a voice out there in the mean time and doing some thing constructive. So boost your confidence and get your blog on!
MENTAL AND VERBAL ABUSE COUNTS TOO I didn't know it was happening to me.
A family is a place that every one should feel:
SAFE
LOVED
WORTHY
CAPABLE
This list is in no way complete. They just touch and encompass four of our basic human rights and needs.
I know that I had spent too many years in a marriage wishing to God that my husband would just hit me. Now I know to some who have not been mentally abused this sounds crazy. I did though, i did every time he yelled at the kids, punched the wall, spent all of the money, called me names. I wished he would come home drunk all of the time or hit me. These I felt, were real reasons to leave.
I left him years later. I had decided I needed to live for me. No longer could I write my life away as though all was written in stone. When the kids grew up I thought i could live then.
I had no idea how to leave, so i called a hotline for legal aid. After explaining my story the woman directed me to another hotline. It was for domestic violence. I dialed and thought I would be transfered to another legal department which offered help to women seeking divorce.
I felt that what I delt with was not "abuse" like this. That volunteer set up an appointment with ACCORD Corp. They are a domestic violence, amung other things, cooalition.
I went to the appoinment with the intentions of telling them how our case was not the normal abuse, that I just didn't know how to leave and needed advise on the whole ordeal and how to cope, where to go next.
As I sat in the waiting area, there was a chart. A circle which outlined the different kinds of abuse and how they all connect with exact examples. I cried as I realized the very thing I was sure would never happen to me, The very things I was there to argue were not abuse that counted "like that" happened to me and my family and I had not seen them.
I started attending classes. I did not want to go in there. I was sure I would not have anything to contribute to these meetings and I and my family would not "fit" in these conversations. I was quiet my first meeting. Women from apparently all wlks of life were there. Some because they were ordered if they wanted thier kids back and they really didn't want to be there either. Some were women who's husbands were well known and their family was respected here. I listened to all of thier stories hoping to here something familuar.
What I heard that first day was out of a woman who had been beaten so bad with a can of carrots that she could not even eat them or see them for that matter. I heard her and her two children's story and cried. At first it convinced me I do not belong here. How dare I complain. I knew then that I was not so bad off.
Then she said something that I will never forget, something that has gotten me through very rough times and givin me the determination to gain self respect for myself and for my children.
" I would take a beating any day over the mental and emotional abuse anyday."
This from a woman who was chained to a chair and left to die with her two small children in the house and only was here today because she managed to crawl to a window and wave to passer bys.
She said the beatings end. They start at a specific time and end. The mental tearing down of one's self has no definate beginning middle or end. It is ongoing and mind washing. Confusing to even the person on the look out for abusive behavior.
In an abusive relationship, the abuser may use varying tactics to gain power and control, including:
Children as pawns. Accuses you of bad parenting, threatens to take the children away, uses the children to relay messages, or threatens to report you to children's protective services.
Coercion and threats. Threatens to hurt other family members, pets, children or self.
Denial and blame. Denies that the abuse occurs and shifts responsibility for the abusive behavior onto you. This may leave you confused and unsure of yourself or make you feel like you're going crazy.
Economic abuse. Controls finances, refuses to share money, makes you account for money spent and doesn't want you to work outside the home. The abuser may also try to sabotage your work performance by forcing you to miss work or by calling you frequently at work.
Emotional abuse. Uses put-downs, insults, criticism or name-calling to make you feel bad about yourself.
Intimidation. Uses certain looks, actions or gestures to instill fear. The abuser may break things, destroy property, abuse pets or display weapons.
Isolation. Limits your contact with family and friends, requires you to get permission to leave the house, doesn't allow you to work or attend school, and controls your activities and social events. The abuser may ask where you've been, track your time and whereabouts, or check the odometer on your car.
Power. Makes all major decisions, defines the roles in your relationship, is in charge of the home and social life, and treats you like a servant or possession.
to read more click here http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence/WO00044
Do not ignore abusive comments. If it hurts you or your children it is wrong. Your home is your safe place in this world. The place you and your kids should feel loved not ever question thier importants or right to existance. Do not allow it. If it is happening. Make that call what can it hurt if you are wrong? What can it change if you are right? National Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1-800-799-7233.
SAFE
LOVED
WORTHY
CAPABLE
This list is in no way complete. They just touch and encompass four of our basic human rights and needs.
I know that I had spent too many years in a marriage wishing to God that my husband would just hit me. Now I know to some who have not been mentally abused this sounds crazy. I did though, i did every time he yelled at the kids, punched the wall, spent all of the money, called me names. I wished he would come home drunk all of the time or hit me. These I felt, were real reasons to leave.
I left him years later. I had decided I needed to live for me. No longer could I write my life away as though all was written in stone. When the kids grew up I thought i could live then.
I had no idea how to leave, so i called a hotline for legal aid. After explaining my story the woman directed me to another hotline. It was for domestic violence. I dialed and thought I would be transfered to another legal department which offered help to women seeking divorce.
I felt that what I delt with was not "abuse" like this. That volunteer set up an appointment with ACCORD Corp. They are a domestic violence, amung other things, cooalition.
I went to the appoinment with the intentions of telling them how our case was not the normal abuse, that I just didn't know how to leave and needed advise on the whole ordeal and how to cope, where to go next.
As I sat in the waiting area, there was a chart. A circle which outlined the different kinds of abuse and how they all connect with exact examples. I cried as I realized the very thing I was sure would never happen to me, The very things I was there to argue were not abuse that counted "like that" happened to me and my family and I had not seen them.
I started attending classes. I did not want to go in there. I was sure I would not have anything to contribute to these meetings and I and my family would not "fit" in these conversations. I was quiet my first meeting. Women from apparently all wlks of life were there. Some because they were ordered if they wanted thier kids back and they really didn't want to be there either. Some were women who's husbands were well known and their family was respected here. I listened to all of thier stories hoping to here something familuar.
What I heard that first day was out of a woman who had been beaten so bad with a can of carrots that she could not even eat them or see them for that matter. I heard her and her two children's story and cried. At first it convinced me I do not belong here. How dare I complain. I knew then that I was not so bad off.
Then she said something that I will never forget, something that has gotten me through very rough times and givin me the determination to gain self respect for myself and for my children.
" I would take a beating any day over the mental and emotional abuse anyday."
This from a woman who was chained to a chair and left to die with her two small children in the house and only was here today because she managed to crawl to a window and wave to passer bys.
She said the beatings end. They start at a specific time and end. The mental tearing down of one's self has no definate beginning middle or end. It is ongoing and mind washing. Confusing to even the person on the look out for abusive behavior.
In an abusive relationship, the abuser may use varying tactics to gain power and control, including:
Children as pawns. Accuses you of bad parenting, threatens to take the children away, uses the children to relay messages, or threatens to report you to children's protective services.
Coercion and threats. Threatens to hurt other family members, pets, children or self.
Denial and blame. Denies that the abuse occurs and shifts responsibility for the abusive behavior onto you. This may leave you confused and unsure of yourself or make you feel like you're going crazy.
Economic abuse. Controls finances, refuses to share money, makes you account for money spent and doesn't want you to work outside the home. The abuser may also try to sabotage your work performance by forcing you to miss work or by calling you frequently at work.
Emotional abuse. Uses put-downs, insults, criticism or name-calling to make you feel bad about yourself.
Intimidation. Uses certain looks, actions or gestures to instill fear. The abuser may break things, destroy property, abuse pets or display weapons.
Isolation. Limits your contact with family and friends, requires you to get permission to leave the house, doesn't allow you to work or attend school, and controls your activities and social events. The abuser may ask where you've been, track your time and whereabouts, or check the odometer on your car.
Power. Makes all major decisions, defines the roles in your relationship, is in charge of the home and social life, and treats you like a servant or possession.
to read more click here http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence/WO00044
Do not ignore abusive comments. If it hurts you or your children it is wrong. Your home is your safe place in this world. The place you and your kids should feel loved not ever question thier importants or right to existance. Do not allow it. If it is happening. Make that call what can it hurt if you are wrong? What can it change if you are right? National Domestic Violence Crisis Line 1-800-799-7233.
I FIND Benefits of Phone Counseling Services
Every year thousands of women go through a transition of one type or the next. This can include things such as divorce, the death of a spouse, relocation, family illness, a new job and much more. This may not seem like a big deal, but women life transitions are something that can be quite difficult to deal with. If you are struggling with one of these areas in your life you need to look into the benefits of phone counseling.
Below are some of the biggest benefits that phone counseling has to offer women who are in a transition stage.
1. First and foremost you will have somebody to talk with when things get bad. This sure beats trying to hold in your feelings. And not only will you have somebody to talk with, when you sign up for phone counseling you will be able to make sure that you are dealing with a professional.
2. You can get phone counseling regardless of where you live, or when you have time to talk. For many women this is much easier than having to go to an office for counseling sessions. If you have access to a phone you can take advantage of phone counseling services.
3. All of your calls are kept private so that you never have to worry about your business getting into the street. This is one of the biggest benefits of talking to a professional via phone counseling as opposed to any other way of venting your problems.
4. Anytime you need help your phone counselor is only a call away. Again, this easy access is one of the biggest advantages of phone counseling. If you feel down and out on a particular day you can call your counselor to discuss your problem.
As you can see, phone counseling and women’s life transitions go together hand in hand. If you are going through a transition phase in your life and are having a tough time, there is no better option than a phone counseling service. The four benefits listed above are just the tip of the iceberg.
">Source: ArticleTrader.com
Below are some of the biggest benefits that phone counseling has to offer women who are in a transition stage.
1. First and foremost you will have somebody to talk with when things get bad. This sure beats trying to hold in your feelings. And not only will you have somebody to talk with, when you sign up for phone counseling you will be able to make sure that you are dealing with a professional.
2. You can get phone counseling regardless of where you live, or when you have time to talk. For many women this is much easier than having to go to an office for counseling sessions. If you have access to a phone you can take advantage of phone counseling services.
3. All of your calls are kept private so that you never have to worry about your business getting into the street. This is one of the biggest benefits of talking to a professional via phone counseling as opposed to any other way of venting your problems.
4. Anytime you need help your phone counselor is only a call away. Again, this easy access is one of the biggest advantages of phone counseling. If you feel down and out on a particular day you can call your counselor to discuss your problem.
As you can see, phone counseling and women’s life transitions go together hand in hand. If you are going through a transition phase in your life and are having a tough time, there is no better option than a phone counseling service. The four benefits listed above are just the tip of the iceberg.
About Author
Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S. is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in women’s relationship and life transition issues. She is the author of “The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance” and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them” and the founder of www.WomenAndTransition.com.">Source: ArticleTrader.com
I Had So Many Children I Didn't Know What To Do...
We all have choices in life. We rarely get to know if we've made the right ones, but there are the rare occasions that we are given a hint that we may have.
Let me paint you a picture.
Somewhere out there is a trailor set in the middle of a farm on a quiet hilltop. Inside is a 1, 2, 3, and 4yr old simulating mexican jumping beans.
Ok I'll back up, I have a 14yr. old a 1 yr. old and 6yr. old. (I chose three life sentences spaced far apart).
My younger brother chose to get child rearing over all at once, hence a 2, 3, and 4yr. old.
His ventures in life have sent him to Texas for three days and left the children in my care.
Did I mention this is a trailor?
Now any one will figure it takes alot of patience and attention to manage several small children at once. Just how much? Every last ounce you can muster!
I decided yesterday that non stop planned activity would work best here so I announced at breakfast "Today is the dog's birthday and we will be having a party!"
A loud series of yays, three falls from the chairs, a bloody lip and one bowl of cereal on the floor later, we start baking a cake at 8am.
The weekend was very enlightening. I have come to the conclusion that parents of more than small child need help.
I don't mean that sarcastically now, I just mean you guys definatly need certain things.
Time for yourself is a must. Even if you only set aside one hour a day (after they are asleep) you need to do this every day.
Utilize your parks and yards. Take part in free activities that keep them busy. Use the library preschool hour. In doing these things you many find a much needed friend. If you can't get out i suggest using the internet to find friends and support. TheJesusClub is a place to find inspirational information and meet other friendly people looking for friends through prayer. Or if you are looking for parenting information and tips Click here to join ClubMom it is free and there is also a "cafe" where parents meet to chat.
However you spend your me time, be sure to make it an unbreakable date. I have only seen four days worth of this lifestyle and I'm charishing this me time more than ever!
Let me paint you a picture.
Somewhere out there is a trailor set in the middle of a farm on a quiet hilltop. Inside is a 1, 2, 3, and 4yr old simulating mexican jumping beans.
Ok I'll back up, I have a 14yr. old a 1 yr. old and 6yr. old. (I chose three life sentences spaced far apart).
My younger brother chose to get child rearing over all at once, hence a 2, 3, and 4yr. old.
His ventures in life have sent him to Texas for three days and left the children in my care.
Did I mention this is a trailor?
Now any one will figure it takes alot of patience and attention to manage several small children at once. Just how much? Every last ounce you can muster!
I decided yesterday that non stop planned activity would work best here so I announced at breakfast "Today is the dog's birthday and we will be having a party!"
A loud series of yays, three falls from the chairs, a bloody lip and one bowl of cereal on the floor later, we start baking a cake at 8am.
The weekend was very enlightening. I have come to the conclusion that parents of more than small child need help.
I don't mean that sarcastically now, I just mean you guys definatly need certain things.
Time for yourself is a must. Even if you only set aside one hour a day (after they are asleep) you need to do this every day.
Utilize your parks and yards. Take part in free activities that keep them busy. Use the library preschool hour. In doing these things you many find a much needed friend. If you can't get out i suggest using the internet to find friends and support. TheJesusClub is a place to find inspirational information and meet other friendly people looking for friends through prayer. Or if you are looking for parenting information and tips Click here to join ClubMom it is free and there is also a "cafe" where parents meet to chat.
However you spend your me time, be sure to make it an unbreakable date. I have only seen four days worth of this lifestyle and I'm charishing this me time more than ever!
I Had to Cope With An Unwanted Relocation / Move
Moving is especially difficult for children.
They give up the most. Home, friends, best friends, school and their neighbourhood. Generally, the older the child, the more difficult the move, because the importance of peer connections increase with age.
TALK TO YOUR FAMILY ABOUT THE MOVE
Explain why the move is necessary. List the advantages of the new location that children might appreciate.
Infants and toddlers simply are confused by the change in surroundings.
Preschoolers tend to miss certain places, such as a favouite park or daycare. Younger children tend to miss familiar people--for example, a favourite teacher, school, or even their own bedrooms.
Under the age of six may worry about being left behind or being separated from their parents. It's important to them to be able to express their feelings and fears about the move. They react well to having a task or job to do--like being responsible for boxing up their favourite toys and labelling these boxes. This gives them a sense of some control over the move.
Children 6-12yrs. worry about who they'll eat lunch with and if they'll like their teacher. They tend to be concerned about how their routines will change. So, if your children are in various structured activities (like sports, other lessons and activities), it is important that they continue these activities.
Older children--especially teenagers--tend to miss their friends and others in their communities with whom they have developed relationships. Teenagers are most concerned about fitting in. They may react angrily to the move, or even insist that they're not moving. This is due to the total lack of control they have over everything that is important in their lives--friends, school, nieghbourhood.
They are most worried about making new friends, about what will be different in the new school. On the other hand, they are curious about clothing, hairstyles, that kids in the new school will have.
Talk to your children. Let them talk--and really listen to them. Find out what they will miss the most. Avoid reassuring your children before they have had a chance to vent. Avoid saying , "Yes . . . but . . ." and stopping them from validating their feelings it is important to allow the grieving to take it's course. Voice the things you miss too.
Your children may want to leave something behind--bury something in the back yard, plant a tree or shrub. It is also a good idea to make an old nieghbourhood/friend book. Allow them to take pictures before they leave and throw a party even if it is in school.
Remind them to get phone numbers and addresses. Provide them with all of their new contact information.
Call the principal of your children's schools, and try to set up a meeting with their teachers or, if they're in junior high or high school, guidance counselor. The new school may even be able to give you names of students in your child's class who live near your new home. If so, you may want to drop by to meet them and their families before you move in.
Set up the children's rooms first. Take short walks around the neighbourhood. This is a great way to meet new neighbours and new friends. Encourage them to get out, do not let them hide in their rooms.
Check groups your family may have been involved with before the move. Churches, sports, social, organizations and activities. Arrange a tour of your child's school. Locate the library, cafeteria, gymnasium, playground, bathrooms and bus stop.
When you feel more settled, invite immediate neighbours, especially those with children, to a picnic or barbecue, so the kids can get to know each other.
Generally, most children adapt to their new location within about nine weeks; however, for some the adjustment period may last from six months to one and one-half years.
Throughout the move, stay as upbeat and calm as you can; a good plan makes this possible. Your own mood will impact other family members, especially babies, who are particularly sensitive to their mother's feelings. With older children, it's important to be honest about some of the uncertainties you have, but also to be generally optimistic about the move and the positive ways it will affect the family.
Try to stick to your routines. Have meals at the same times as always. If your kids nap, encourage them to lie down at the usual time. Keep to the normal bedtimes. Don't pack things that your children treasure. Take special blankets, beloved stuffed animals, favorite books, and other prized items in a separate bag or box that you can bring with you in the car or on the plane when you go to your new home.
The attitude of the parents is most important in how well a child will cope with moving. See the move as an adventure and focus on the opportunities in moving, the children will then accept the situation as a positive.
They give up the most. Home, friends, best friends, school and their neighbourhood. Generally, the older the child, the more difficult the move, because the importance of peer connections increase with age.
TALK TO YOUR FAMILY ABOUT THE MOVE
Explain why the move is necessary. List the advantages of the new location that children might appreciate.
Infants and toddlers simply are confused by the change in surroundings.
Preschoolers tend to miss certain places, such as a favouite park or daycare. Younger children tend to miss familiar people--for example, a favourite teacher, school, or even their own bedrooms.
Under the age of six may worry about being left behind or being separated from their parents. It's important to them to be able to express their feelings and fears about the move. They react well to having a task or job to do--like being responsible for boxing up their favourite toys and labelling these boxes. This gives them a sense of some control over the move.
Children 6-12yrs. worry about who they'll eat lunch with and if they'll like their teacher. They tend to be concerned about how their routines will change. So, if your children are in various structured activities (like sports, other lessons and activities), it is important that they continue these activities.
Older children--especially teenagers--tend to miss their friends and others in their communities with whom they have developed relationships. Teenagers are most concerned about fitting in. They may react angrily to the move, or even insist that they're not moving. This is due to the total lack of control they have over everything that is important in their lives--friends, school, nieghbourhood.
They are most worried about making new friends, about what will be different in the new school. On the other hand, they are curious about clothing, hairstyles, that kids in the new school will have.
Talk to your children. Let them talk--and really listen to them. Find out what they will miss the most. Avoid reassuring your children before they have had a chance to vent. Avoid saying , "Yes . . . but . . ." and stopping them from validating their feelings it is important to allow the grieving to take it's course. Voice the things you miss too.
Your children may want to leave something behind--bury something in the back yard, plant a tree or shrub. It is also a good idea to make an old nieghbourhood/friend book. Allow them to take pictures before they leave and throw a party even if it is in school.
Remind them to get phone numbers and addresses. Provide them with all of their new contact information.
Call the principal of your children's schools, and try to set up a meeting with their teachers or, if they're in junior high or high school, guidance counselor. The new school may even be able to give you names of students in your child's class who live near your new home. If so, you may want to drop by to meet them and their families before you move in.
Set up the children's rooms first. Take short walks around the neighbourhood. This is a great way to meet new neighbours and new friends. Encourage them to get out, do not let them hide in their rooms.
Check groups your family may have been involved with before the move. Churches, sports, social, organizations and activities. Arrange a tour of your child's school. Locate the library, cafeteria, gymnasium, playground, bathrooms and bus stop.
When you feel more settled, invite immediate neighbours, especially those with children, to a picnic or barbecue, so the kids can get to know each other.
Generally, most children adapt to their new location within about nine weeks; however, for some the adjustment period may last from six months to one and one-half years.
Throughout the move, stay as upbeat and calm as you can; a good plan makes this possible. Your own mood will impact other family members, especially babies, who are particularly sensitive to their mother's feelings. With older children, it's important to be honest about some of the uncertainties you have, but also to be generally optimistic about the move and the positive ways it will affect the family.
Try to stick to your routines. Have meals at the same times as always. If your kids nap, encourage them to lie down at the usual time. Keep to the normal bedtimes. Don't pack things that your children treasure. Take special blankets, beloved stuffed animals, favorite books, and other prized items in a separate bag or box that you can bring with you in the car or on the plane when you go to your new home.
The attitude of the parents is most important in how well a child will cope with moving. See the move as an adventure and focus on the opportunities in moving, the children will then accept the situation as a positive.
Good Evening Everyone!
I hope that all is well. If not please do tell. You can either contact me directly at lullabell225@peoplepc.com or go ahead and post below.
For now I think the way this will work is on a more individual basis. If you need something be specific and try not to be greedy as this is here for the needy. We will be depending on the kindness of strangers and each other here so by all means if you need it name it. If you know someone who needs something name it.
I will try to put you in touch with the correct organization or charitable person.
Now for the second and just as important componant of this site volunteers. If you can please do. Read our comments posted. If you can help contact me.
I will do my best to see that you are put in contact with the needy party. If preffered I will handle all contact.
Think of all of the things you have too much of. All of the things that are not used any more. These just may be the things that can reward you in the greatest way and at the same time mean the world to your neighbor.
GOOD NIGHT FRIENDS
For now I think the way this will work is on a more individual basis. If you need something be specific and try not to be greedy as this is here for the needy. We will be depending on the kindness of strangers and each other here so by all means if you need it name it. If you know someone who needs something name it.
I will try to put you in touch with the correct organization or charitable person.
Now for the second and just as important componant of this site volunteers. If you can please do. Read our comments posted. If you can help contact me.
I will do my best to see that you are put in contact with the needy party. If preffered I will handle all contact.
Think of all of the things you have too much of. All of the things that are not used any more. These just may be the things that can reward you in the greatest way and at the same time mean the world to your neighbor.
GOOD NIGHT FRIENDS
We All Need A Hand From Time To Time
Here is a woman in need
http://helpbuffy.blogstream.com
I am not quite sure of how I will format all of my ideas for this site as of yet.
I just decided it was time to just jump in and do this.
The goal here is to create a site that revolves around REAL people helping other people (mainly parents)
I want to address these topics:
clothing
food
shelter
providing a support circle for parents with out friends
money makers that PROVE to pay out with very little money or no investment
(little money meaning NO more than say $20.00)
donation centers or even one of our own
possibly a hand me down toy and clothing and other goods exchange. (NOT AUCTION)
I REALLY WANT THIS TO BE AN HONEST TO GOODNESS HELPING HANDS CENTER.
so in conclusion for today any input will be greatly appreciated and the link at the top is a woman in need right now. Her husband offers website design and web stuff on the side they could use the business if any one needs the service.
this is a site i am currently exploring as a free money making opportunity
NEVER INVEST YOUR MONEY JUST YOUR TIME.
http://www.mylot.com/?ref=lullabell
http://helpbuffy.blogstream.com
I am not quite sure of how I will format all of my ideas for this site as of yet.
I just decided it was time to just jump in and do this.
The goal here is to create a site that revolves around REAL people helping other people (mainly parents)
I want to address these topics:
clothing
food
shelter
providing a support circle for parents with out friends
money makers that PROVE to pay out with very little money or no investment
(little money meaning NO more than say $20.00)
donation centers or even one of our own
possibly a hand me down toy and clothing and other goods exchange. (NOT AUCTION)
I REALLY WANT THIS TO BE AN HONEST TO GOODNESS HELPING HANDS CENTER.
so in conclusion for today any input will be greatly appreciated and the link at the top is a woman in need right now. Her husband offers website design and web stuff on the side they could use the business if any one needs the service.
this is a site i am currently exploring as a free money making opportunity
NEVER INVEST YOUR MONEY JUST YOUR TIME.
http://www.mylot.com/?ref=lullabell
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